21 Things Learned Before Age 21


I've (Emily, here!) learned a lot in my short 21 years here in the world, and I think it's all pretty great. It's cool to realize that I have this space to share with you my 21 bits of advice for everyone. Enjoy! Xx.

Here's what I've learned so far ...

1. Nobody is going to swoop in and rescue you from your life; only you can do that for yourself.

2. You don’t gain or lose 10 pounds by eating a bowl of ice cream. Grab a spoon & dig in.

3. No one looks at you and says, oh my god if that dimple weren’t there on your right butt cheek, I’d love you so much more. Love yourself the way other people love you: without judgment and criticism.

4. Magic drink and cure-all: spinach and banana smoothie. Perfect post toxin binge, wink wink.

5. Being young isn’t an excuse to be socially inappropriate, but growing up doesn’t give you permission to lose your sense of wonder. 

6. If you don’t love it, don’t do it/ have sex with it/ buy it. 

7. Do no harm, but take no shit. And if you do harm, remember a sincere apology speaks volumes. 

8. Forgiveness takes you further than any resentment ever will. 

9. Celebrate the little things. They are the foundation for your success. 

10. Wear the new shoes, the sexy lingerie, the leather pants; there’s no special occasion like living life to the fullest.

11. Some things are just not about you. Regardless of your inner 4-year-old opinion, the universe does not revolve around you.

12. Friendships are just like any other relationship: they take trust, understanding, communication, and love.

13. Take a day off “just because”. You’ll never know what great ideas come from a little R&R.

14. Stay in touch with the teachers that made you believe in the world again. They will forever encourage and inspire your dreams.

15. Put yourself out there, again and again, regardless of rejection or being shut down. You never know when the other person will blink and think: this one

16. Read your favorite books over and over again — chick lit, comics, biographies, it doesn’t matter as long as you love it. 

17. Don’t be afraid of love. It might not be a forever kind of love, but if it makes your heart sing for a moment, hold on tight with no regrets. Remember your worth does not depend on the opinions of others, but rather the opinion you hold of yourself.

18. There are no rules on heartbreak. Take as much time as you need. 

19. If there's something you’re passionate about, go for it. Don’t wait. You never know how your story will unfold until you leap.

20. Sometimes, all you need is a cup of tea, someone to brush your hair, and a funny movie. 

21. Stop waiting for the shoe to drop and just live your damn life. If something bad happens, it happens, but it’s not because of something you did or didn’t do. You’ll notice when you stop expecting terrible things to happen, they stop happening. 


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Homemade Peanut Butter Cups


It's going to be Halloween in 17 days (!!!!!!!)! If you can't tell, I'm (Emily, here!) beyond excited. Not only is Halloween my favorite holiday, but it's also the eve of my birthday ... and this birthday is a big deal. Woot woot! Since my sugar detox a few weeks ago, I've been introducing sugar back into my diet. I'm fortunate enough to have access to natural sweeteners and fruits, so I've been consuming sugar, all natural to processed, about 90/10 (I have no way to prove this, so I'm just estimating here ... remember what we said about being Superwoman). It's been amazing to see the large effects on my mental state even in small doses. Not seeing how sugar affects your body? I've got you covered.

But let's get back to Halloween. Here's the thing...

I don't believe in Halloween without candy.

I just don't.

It seems cruel to the tastebuds - and the soul - not to drop some sweetness on there in the months leadingup to the beloved holiday season. I've written before on my feelings of foods called "cheats" -- ugh what a hard way to live life -- so today's recipe comes from a place of Good Vibe-ing TREATS! They said trick or treat, and I'd much rather have a yummy-in-my-tummy treat than deception, thank you very much ;) .

Peanut butter cups are beyond nostalgic for me; the amount I've eaten is a testament to the classic combination of peanut butter and chocolate being a winning one. I've plans to turn them on their heads over the next several months, but for now, we begin with the base recipe.



This recipe brings all of the Great Vibes because it's ...

less than 5 ingredients
easy peasy to make
features the classic pb & chocolate combo
rich
chocolatey
sweet
filling

The best part is it's functionality. Don't have a full bag of chocolate chips? Melt what you have and adjust the number you make. Not into using the microwave? Use a double broiler to melt your chocolate. Not a fan of or allergic to peanuts? Swap it out for any other nut butter or coconut butter if allergic to all. Not supposed to or don't want to eat sugar? Leave it out. Yes, there will be differences in flavors or consistency with some of the above changes, but I promise you won't be sacrificing the Great Vibes with those changes.

Notice in my ingredients where I've written organic and where I've written vegan. If these things are important to you, I encourage you to do the same. Finances, availability, and personal consumer choice can impact purchase decisions. My hope is that you closely follow the recipe, but make allowances where necessary -- my feelings won't be hurt and your tastebuds will still have a party. Promise!

What is it we love so much about this recipe? Chocolate is good for the soul, and if it's high quality chocolate, can pack a punch in regards to antioxidants and illness fighting power. Peanuts can get a bad rep, but they are high in protein, stocked with Vitamin E and B6, help you lose weight, and loaded with heart-healthy, waist-line-friendly, monounsaturated fats. Don't fear fats, babes. It's not the 80s. Here at The Great Vibes Guide, we choose all natural pb (aka nothing in it but peanuts) to maximize the bennies and yum factor. If you're using sea salt at the end, get ready for the blissful joy that is balancing pH levels, stabilizing blood sugar, getting a complex, sweet flavor, as well as getting a healthy dose of sodium - which is a necessary mineral for sustaining life.

Ingredients & steps after the jump ... 



Homemade Peanut Butter Cups
the below amounts are estimates, adjust where necessary

Ingredients ::

+ 1 bag Chocolate Chips (vegan, gf)
+ 1/2 cup Peanut Butter (made only of peanuts, no extras)
+ 1/2 cup + Powdered Sugar (vegan)
+ Optional: Pink Himalayan Sea Salt

Recipe ::

  1. Pour about half of the chocolate chips into a microwavable bowl. Microwave on high for 2 minutes, stirring every 30 seconds until all of the chips have melted.

  2. Place about 1/4 cup of peanut butter into a bowl.

  3. Add powdered sugar 1 tablespoon at a time to the peanut butter, stirring until the peanut butter can be rolled between your fingers and is no longer runny (like the inside of a store-bought peanut butter cup).

  4. Line a mini muffin tin with cupcake liners.

  5. Pour chocolate onto the liner until the bottom is completely covered.

  6. Scoop a heaping teaspoon (and more if desired) of the peanut butter mixture onto the chocolate base.

  7. Repeat step 1 if running low on chocolate.

  8. Completely cover peanut butter with chocolate.

  9. Sparingly crack salt, if using, over the still slightly melted tops.

  10. Place into refrigerator (or freezer, if you're impatient like me) to set.

  11. Pull from the refrigerator once set -- your finger no longer gets covered in chocolate when you touch the top.

  12. Grab one, tear off the wrapper, pop in mouth, and enjoy! Xx.

  13. Keeps well in a sealed container in the refrigerator or freezer.


+ what's your favorite Halloween candy? Let me know in the comments or on Facebook, and we just might make it for a feature :)


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Exercising & Eats on Vacay

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Why do we do this to ourselves? We workout exhaustively and diet whole-heartedly in the days leading up to vacation, and then once we've jetted away or arrived at our location, it's all been so much that we break down and yell at ourselves for not 'behaving' a proper way. And as a result, we end up not enjoy vacation because of our destructive, limiting, and restrictive thoughts. We are no longer filled with the love, light, and excitement like we hoped for in our vacation planning. Gosh that stinks(!!!). So I repeat. Why do we do this to ourselves?

So I've (Emily, here) come up with a few ideas to help you figure out how to enjoy vacation: eating what your body needs, moving when you feel right, and finally ending the vicious train of thought that weaves it's way into your mind.

So how do we start? Here are three simple steps:

First, let yourself off the hook. Letting yourself truly enjoy vacation is a must and oh so important. How much time do you spend on vacation a year? Do you even regularly go on vacation? Let's say it's one week a year. That's 1/52 of your year. If you don't think you could bounce back in the other 51 weeks of the years, you have another thing coming. Relax and do things you don't do when you're at home on the grind. You have plenty of other days to do the exact same thing, so why not change it up for the week and enjoy?

Evaluate the food sitch for your duration. Where are ya? A hotel? A house? Someone's place? Are you only going out to eat, or can you get yummies to stock up your room, place, etc? The vacation I've escaped on luckily allows me to go out and grab groceries, so I can keep eating what I normally do (minus my green smoothie, darn it). If you're in a hotel, there's likely a mini fridge. My 'kitchen' at school consists of a microfridge, so yes, it's doable to stock it up with fresh goods and keep up with delicious eats. If there is absolutely no way to stock up anything, don't hesitate to invest in your meal plans. Find great restaurants, go out and snag fresh veggies and fruits for when you go out and explore, or run and grab your favorite meals from a local cafe when you can.

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You do not have to have a 'perfect diet or exercise routine'. Ever. But mainly on vacation. Okay. So there is no such thing as perfect. If anything, there is perfectly imperfect which is something that all of you are, but there is no such thing as straight up perfect. And there is no such thing as one-size-fits-all whether that's in pajamas, pants, exercise, or diet. Nope. I'm here to tell you that if someone lost 1000 pounds on this kind of diet, it doesn't mean you couldn't gain 50 on the same one. Everyone is different. So stop freaking out because you aren't obeying this perfect ideal. That being said, especially on vacation, stop and smell the roses. You aren't going to lose or gain ten pounds over the span of a week or two. I know that you're saying Gee, Em, if anyone can, I can. But you can't. I promise it's physically impossible (okay maybe there is one percent chance, but not all of you are in the one percent).

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In NYC, it's the first time I've ever had a nice, vegan meal in an upscale restaurant. So I let the stereotypical salad finally loose, and I found a great amazing meal. And I'm so glad I did, because those kinds of nights are few and far between. Same thing with working out. I brought my yoga mat and have online subscriptions to my two favorite workout places, but I haven't felt like getting up early and making myself super sweaty and sore. So instead, I pop out of bed, do a few stretches, maybe a couple sun salutations, hold a little plank, or do none of the above, and then go in search of my cup of joe. It's really no big deal, and the sooner one can internalize that notion that you can enjoy your life without making yourself miserable first, the happier and healthier one will be.

Finally, breathe. Take a deep breath in through your nose, and exhale through your mouth. Let yourself relax. Drop your shoulders away from your ears and honor yourself. Have you been pushing yourself too hard? Is your body begging for a slow down? Does it want that extra plate of spaghetti, because you're hungry, and it's amazing, and you feel like you haven't had carbs in an eternity (which is something we could talk about if you need support around a foodie lifestyle that works for you)? Listen to your answers. Listen to yourself. You know what you need, and given half a chance, the body can heal itself. Use this time away to recharge, get empowered, and return to your life invigorated and ready. Like I said above, you won't lose ten pounds or gain ten pounds on vacation, so stop picking on food and your body, telling yourself such things. Enjoy. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy, and breathe. It's only as complicated as you make it.

 So there you have it! Three simple (beyond simple, really) ways to keep perspective and enjoy your vacation, exercise and eats style.

1. Evaluate Your Food Sitch. 2. There is no such thing as the perfect diet or fitness plan. 3. Ya gotta breathe, babe.

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